I feel so discouraged, What do I do?
Here's the reality...
We ALL get discouraged. Whether it be with work, family, friends, our health, our situation, home, or anything else...It's not fun being discouraged. And sometimes the road in front of us seems impossible, so we are on the brink of giving up. I have been there. Many times. When we do get to that place of discouragement what do we do?
My first reactions to discouragement...
Grab the Dark Chocolate, Ice Cream and the Couch! ~ Eating my way into deeper discouragement.
Another reaction is to get angry! ~ It's not FAIR! This always happens to me! I HATE this situation!!!
Next, I want to Give Up! ~ I'm never going to succeed, so why bother.
The bottom of discouragement is depression. ~ A very real and sometimes scary place to be.
Anyone else with me? These are not healthy ways of dealing with discouragement. In fact, it worsens the discouragement and clouds any light from coming through. So, what do we do instead? How can I get over this obstacle of hopelessness and disappointment?
Here are FIVE steps that can be a HUGE help when you are discouraged.
Get alone. Talk to God. He has got you. He hasn't left. Don't worry about any special words to say, just pour out your heart. Ask him to help you. Read some Scriptures and claim the promises he has made to you!
2. Count Your Blessings
Take a moment to see all the things that you have to be thankful for! Sometimes I can get so focused on one thing that is not going the way I want it to, I fail to see all the wonderful things in my life that ARE going right and are such a blessing. Don't just think about those blessings. Write them down and refer back to that list and add to it often.
3. Go Outside For Some Fresh Air
It's amazing what a little fresh air can do for your soul. Take a walk, drive to the beach or lake, work in your garden, go the park, watch your children play in the backyard. Get OUTSIDE. Let the sun shine down on you. Take big, deep breaths.
4. Find A New Perspective
When I stop and look around me, I realize that things are not really that bad. One of the best ways to get over my discouragement is to look for someone who is also discouraged and find a way to help them. It is so rewarding to see a friend or neighbor or even a complete stranger smile because I took time to focus on them. When I see the big world around me, I realize my problems aren't as big as I thought. I gain a New Perspective.
5. Get Help
Sometimes we have to be honest with ourselves. We need some help. Talk to a mentor and share with them your discouragement. Ask for advice. Seek counsel. You aren't alone. There are people out there who want to and will help you. There are times when just sharing my discouragement with a friend takes a weight off me and I find new motivation to go forward and keep working. But other times, I have needed professional help or advice. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Don't be embarrassed. We have ALL been there.
I hope that these five steps will help you as much as they do me. You can do this! You can get through this discouraging time. It won't last forever. Remember, There is a Season for Everything. God will see you through!